Most people experience the first hints of love during their teenage years. It may start from pure admiration, then to crushes and eventually, they’re already going out. Young love or teen romance is entirely natural and it is among the norms of people in every society. But even if that’s the case, as parents, you should be there to guide your kids as they go through this phase in their lives. Doing so will help your children learn how to handle relationships, overcome obstacles and even accept circumstances that may come along.
Helping Your Teenagers With Young Love Issues
Juvenile as it may seem, teen romance may also lead to something serious. Your child may experience bumps that will seem overwhelming for her young age. With this, you have to prepare yourself inefficiently guiding your child through it:
– How to handle the possible first heartbreak.
– How to manage their emotions positively for years.
– How to balance their feelings and still go through life without making love as the center of their teenage years.
Some Tips For Parents
The thought of your child having a relationship can throw any parent off their balance. But instead of letting your emotions get the best of you, you should then open your mind and assess things through without any conviction.
Below are some tips on how to handle your child going through the said phase:
Make your child understand the advantage of being in balance while in a relationship. Help them know that at this point in their lives, they don’t need to make love the center of everything. They still have school life to focus on and more. Implement rules like curfews, phone call time limits and extra-curricular activities they can involve themselves in with your supervision.
Make them understand that relationships are not based on expensive gifts as given to the other person. There is no need to spend that much money just to make a connection work.
If the romance is new, then make your child understand that giving out personalized gifts like clothing and jewelry is not necessary. Doing so is too much of a premature relationship.
Some teens can make their relationship last for a long time (more than a year). It is unavoidable for personal gifts to be exchanged. Make your child understand the value of such action and help them learn to appreciate the presents given by their special someone.
Do not criticize your child with his or her emotions. As young as they are, they consider their feelings seriously. Respect them.
Have open communication with your child. Doing so will allow you to have a grasp of what’s going on in his or her mind.
Do not be judgmental. Talk to your child regarding his or her relationship, but emphasize the idea that there are also other things to focus on like school, sports, time with friends, and more. Also, attempt to know the other person, their background, and preferences. As a parent, you have to know your child’s special someone.
If the significant other has met your expectations, then loosen your strings and allow your child to associate with the person. However, there should be limitations. The importance of open communication must be established, and lies are never accepted.
What To Do If Problems Are Encountered
If you have ascertained that the relationship has already gone off the boundaries, then, it is now time to have a serious talk with your child. Make your child understand the implications and consequences of their actions, and most importantly how they will affect their future.
But then you also need to understand that despite the talk, in the end, your teen has the last say. You can only control your child up to a point. Make sure that you know everything that is happening with your teen by doing follow-ups and constant monitoring.
If the relationship has already gone too far, stand by your rules. Your child may hate you for that, but in time, your child will realize you’re right.
Teen romance is inevitable. Allow your child to experience it. Treat it as a learning ground that will teach them the child how to deal with more challenging situations in the future. However, you as parents should guide your child all the way.